When a woman becomes a mother for the first time, it is a new experience, and yet mothers have been around since...well, that's a question for philosophers. Unless you were born in a test tube, or are a space alien from a different galaxy, or are a politician, you were born into this world from a woman who at least for one moment, was a mother.
I would love to go on to say that everyone has a loving mother who cared for them as an infant, raised them though childhood, angered them during adolescence, amused them during adulthood and helped care for the grandchildren. For many people this is true and yet for others, the word 'mother' is a distant pale shade of a person, or even a myth.
Becoming a mother is pretty easy. It's been done for thousands and thousands of years through procreation. Being a good mother is a whole different gig. Being a loving mother, a patient person, an unselfish being, a caretaker and a cop, a cook and a house manager, a woman and an authority figure, an underpaid worker and an individual who receives a bountiful payment in love... this is the person we are celebrating today. The person who is the whole world for the baby, the supplier for the child, the cop during adolescence, the supporter for early adulthood, the babysitter for the kids, and the wise elder during those long, lazy days of slumber in middle age.
"Grown don't mean nothing to a mother. A child is a child. They get bigger, older, but grown? What's that suppose to mean? In my heart it don't mean a thing."
- Toni Morrison, Beloved, 1987
Motherhood and mothers should never be taken for granted. Ask anyone who never knew their mother or whose mother has passed on to the continuous Mother's Day in the sky. Mothers are the givers of love and the takers of pain. A mother's instinct is more durable than stainless steel and knock-knock jokes. Mothers are womb warriors, people who will fight and die for their offspring. Mothers are soft touches, crying over the silliest pictures drawn by their kindergarten aged child or the 'oh so serious' looking 3rd grade school photo of their daughter or son.
Many of us are now too old to be able to give our mother a crayon drawing or a paper turkey shaped like a hand. This might bring a smile to her face but not the type of smile we were hoping to get. Also many of us are not able to afford to give our mother a new home or a lifetime gift certificate for free meals at her favorite local restaurant. For more and more of us, our mothers are reaching an age where perfume or flowers may not be the most useful gift. Take a look at what Rehabmart can offer to the wonderful women and mothers out there who have always done what was needed to be done and now are ready to enjoy another part of their adult life.
"The most remarkable thing about my mother is that for thirty years she served the family nothing but leftovers. The original meal has never been found."
- Calvin Trillin
"You couldn't fool your mother on the foolingest day of your life if you had an electrified fooling machine."
- Homer Simpson
Mother's day is special because the day is intended to celebrate a special person. We all get busy with our lives, with work and kids and paying the bills, and we sometimes forget the person who was also busy keeping us safe and teaching us about life while we were growing up. Go ahead, make that phone call or make the effort to fly or drive to see your mom. Mom won't be around to hold our hand and comfort us forever, so take the time and make the effort and say "Hi" to your mom today. Her day. Mother's Day. What the heck, make her another crayon colored hand-shaped paper turkey, I am sure she will still love it.
Dedicated to Mary Stock
1925-2004
"I miss thee, my Mother! Thy image is still
The deepest impressed on my heart."
- Eliza Cook
Bill Stock
Library Editor for Rehabmart
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Hulet Smith, OT
Rehabmart Team Leader & CEO